Expectations – The Key?

Posted: October 5, 2011 in Expectations, Wandering Thoughts

“I am circling around God, around the ancient tower, and I have been circling for a thousand years, and I still don’t know if I am a falcon, or a storm, or a great song.” ― Rainer Maria Rilke

“Expectations are the father of disappointment.” Not my words but… i can see how they appear to be true.

EXPECTATIONS!! Have them, don’t have them, realistic, not realistic, good, bad, low, high. At the start of this my position was that i have few expectations, specifically of things and people. Just go to the local fast food place and see what that does for expectations. Over the past ten years there has been a gap between my expectations and the behavior of people. Sorry, that’s my perspective which may or may not be correct. At least i have no expectations of others that i don’t have for myself. But, admittedly my expectations for myself are very high. Remember now this may sound like rambling but i am sharing ideas, concepts, with no absolute answers, yet.

Expectations – anticipated or assumed action or outcome. The belief that certain things should go a certain way. Expectations can be beneficial; they can be the standards i set for myself and strive to live up to. Expectations can also be harmful when applied to others in an unrealistic way. i expect certain people to behave a certain way, and when they don’t i become disappointed in them and frustrated with them. Is this inevitable in life? Probably so, as no one can live up to my expectations, but… shouldn’t they… okay, can’t they come closer than they appear to.

How about this? “The key for me is to get to know people and expect them to be who they are. Instead, i expect people to be who i want them to be– and when they’re not, i cry.”

Joyce Meyers tells her story of being abused by her father throughout her whole childhood and how she married the first guy who came along when she was still a teenager, and it seemed that he was a bigger mess than she was. After being abused and abandoned by him, their marriage ended. By the time she met Dave, she was negative and hopeless about everything, just trying to make it through each day.

Because she had been hurt so much in her life, she was really negative and expected the worst all of the time. Even after she had a strong relationship with God, she still struggled with this for awhile. Then one morning, she tells how she was standing in the bathroom and remember noticing this pressure, this evil presence around her. It wasn’t new she says, she realized that she had always felt it. It made her think, “What bad thing is going to happen next?”

She asked God what this feeling was. He spoke to her heart that it is “evil forebodings.” She found Proverbs 15:15, which says, “All the days of the desponding and afflicted are made evil [by anxious thoughts and forebodings], but he who has a glad heart has a continual feast [regardless of circumstances]” (AMP).

She read the verse, and realized what it meant. It was the fear of something bad happening when nothing was going wrong. She looked back and saw how it affected her at different times in the past. The night Dave asked her to marry him, he said he needed to talk to her  about something. She thought he was going to break up with her because she just always expected the negative. That’s exactly what Satan wants me to do. He wants me to expect something bad and to become fearful of the “what ifs.”

i have been there, not wondering if bad things were going to happen or what bad things were going to happen, but when would they happen. Fear is the opposite of faith and it takes faith to accept anything good in life. When I was expecting something bad to happen, my expectation was from the enemy. If i am not careful, this expectation will open the door to Satan’s evil plans for my life by me waiting for bad things. When i expect good things, i open the door to God’s plans.

Lamentations 3:25: “The Lord is good to those who wait hopefully and expectantly for Him, to those who seek Him [inquire of and for Him and require Him by right of necessity and on the authority of God’s word]” (AMP).

Now that’s just… just… well, it just is. That’s what i get for asking God to reveal what the word says about expectations. Good to those who wait hopefully and expectantly for Him. More waiting, and what am i doing while i am waiting, hoping. God wants to do something outrageously wonderful in my life but i have to be ready and expect it to happen. So do i not have expectaions of anyone else but  for Him?

Isaiah 30:18 says it perfectly, “Therefore the Lord [earnestly] waits [expecting, looking, and longing] to be gracious to you; and therefore He lifts Himself up, that He may have mercy on you and show loving-kindness to you…. Blessed (happy, fortunate, to be envied) are all those who [earnestly] wait for Him, who expect and look and long for Him…” (AMP).

My waiting on God may seem passive, but actually it is one of the most spiritually active times in my life. In the Bible, the Greek word for wait means “to long for, to look for with an outstretched heart, expecting the goodness of God to show up.”


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