Expectations – Living Up To

Posted: October 10, 2011 in Expectations, Wandering Thoughts

The little that is completed, vanishes from the sight of one who looks forward to what is still to do. – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Living Up To Others Expectations

Please take note these are not the expectations of my boss as he is paying me to meet his expectations and it is my obligation to meet them as unto the Lord. This is personal relationship expectations and God expectations whether stated or implied, whether legitamit or not, whether real or imagined. Living up to others expectations can be very rewarding, a pat on the back goes a long way. A child coming from a healthy home and environment lives up to the expectations of their parents in school…and as long as the parent remains in balance with their own expectations for the child…this will remove stress and frustration from the child. But out of balance expectations is for me the parent to live my dreams through my children. The child now is under pressure to perform and be someone who they really are not. Everyone should be held accountable for their actions by someone…but that accountability should not be overbearing and demanding because it hinders me from expressing and being who i reallyam. Living up to others expectations in an unbalanced way is to submit to others opinions. If i commit to such behavior and don’t know who i am i may experience frustration and disappointment. Being someone that i’m not is a waste of time because life passes by and that time cannot be recovered. Also people miss out on what i have to offer when i am not where i should be in life.

i also should be considering, how do I live up to my own expectations? How do I find acceptance within myself? There are options you know. Drugs, alcohol, pornography, etc., etc.. And then there is the word. Two scenarios for me to consider.

i can constantly sit around feeling inadequate with myself, and i can meditate on not understanding why I feel this way. i realize that these feelings of inadequacy tend to get blown out of proportion. and, if left to consume me, i may become uncomfortable in my own skin, uneased with myself, disgusted with myself. In the disgust come words like, i don’t know what is wrong with me… Even when i succeed in life, i will feel like it isn’t enough. i will feel like nothing will ever be enough for me.

Now the other scenario requires faith and just as much effort as the one above. The difference…. the end result. Micah 6:8 ESV He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome. Sounds like a cop-out, but if i have faith that there is a God, then why not in the words He speaks? i exchange my thoughts for His thoughts, my plans for His plans. i like the sound of welfare and peace much better than, i am so dumb, i can’t do anything right. And as i said the difference is in the outcome, God says, He gives me hope in my final outcome. i like when God presents me with potential or… expectations way more than those of others or even myself.

As for being able to live them out and believe in them, to have the faith that they are true… i must surrender self, Philippians 2:13 [Not in ed’s own strength] for it is God Who is all the while effectually at work in me [energizing and creating in me the power and desire], both to will and to work for His good pleasure and satisfaction and delight.

When i start “feeling” like expectations are consuming me i must go to what i know… these thoughts are not God’s thoughts, and immediately i realize that there is a deficiency with in me, “for God is ALL the while effectually at work in me” and i know what that looks like, feels like and sounds like. So why would i settle for anything less or different. When a baby begins to cry the first thing that comes to a parent’s mind is that they are hungry, and they probably are. So when i begin to cry because of unmet expectations i need to be fed. i need a dose of the uncompromising Word of Truth to fill the emptiness that makes me feel hunger.

Joshua 1:7-16 ESV Only be strong and very courageous, being careful to do according to all the law that Moses my servant commanded you. Do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may have good success wherever you go. This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” And Joshua commanded the officers of the people, “Pass through the midst of the camp and command the people, ‘Prepare your provisions, for within three days you are to pass over this Jordan to go in to take possession of the land that the Lord your God is giving you to possess.’” …

There’s a few words (underlined) expectations…. Words (in bold) take away the hunger.

The best thing about the future is that it only comes one day at a time. Abraham Lincoln

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