My Addiction – Healing – Part 29

Posted: September 10, 2012 in My Addiction
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Peaceful Living – Comes from Acting on Basic Biblical Truths – Structured Into A Program For Daily Life


Today i come to the last step in the “Living In Peace With Others” portion of the journey. i want to again say for the record that it does not mean that i have arrived.

Step 10 is about growing graceful relationships.

Graceful: characterized by elegance or beauty of form, manner, movement, or speech; elegant.

The closest i can identify with this is in my relationship with Ann Marie or Nana as some of you know her as. But… i’m not sure if others were characterizing our relationship if the word would be elegance. There are many times it is everything but elegant, usually because of my leading to someplace other than… elegance. my point is that if in my deepest personal relationship after 43 years have not achieved Graceful then i have my work cut out for me in other relationships. i am sure glad that step 10 is about growing into this.

Relationship according to Webster: a connection, association, or involvement. A connection seems okay as it may be for a moment. An association seems a little more difficult as it’s for a longer period of time. As for involvement, well that’s a whole lot more and will be the most difficult.

i read a great definition of intimacy, Genesis 2:25 “And the man and his wife were both naked and were not embarrassed or ashamed in each other’s presence.” Sure this appears to be speaking of the physical but i think it goes beyond. i am naked before Ann Marie, not embarrassed or ashamed in her presence and thus i can tell her everything! Truth is i tell her before i tell God and i tell her more than i tell God. Somewhere inside me i have this idea that if i tell her and we’re okay then everything is okay and it will be okay with God as well. i know it’s backwards. Somebody will probably read this and say that i am co-dependant in regards to her. i at this moment am very much okay with that and it has seemed to work well for us for 40 years of marriage.

i have spent more time, invested more deeply, with Ann Marie than i have with God and yet i know as hard as it would be should something happen to her i know i would be okay. No hard feelings toward God. i guess my thoughts are to buy up every opportunity with her while i can and… and yet, graceful, elegant, escape my grasp to often.

Currently i am working hard on my relationship with my grandson Ethan. He is growing so fast and the days when hanging out with Papa may not be his first choice. I am buying up these days with all i know. It is my desire for Him to know not only who i am and why. i would like to be the dinner table discussion when his family is sitting around. i also have two other grandchildren and am looking forawd to do the same with them when they get just a bit older.

Growth – Mature Relationships. i want to grow even deeper with Ann Marie and more specifically with God. That’s why i am on this journey. Yes, i also want to grow more graceful in my other relationships and definitely deeper in some others.

2 Timothy 3:16-17 But don’t let it faze you. Stick with what you learned and believed, sure of the integrity of your teachers—why, you took in the sacred Scriptures with your mother’s milk! There’s nothing like the written Word of God for showing you the way to salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. Every part of Scripture is God-breathed and useful one way or another—showing us truth, exposing our rebellion, correcting our mistakes, training us to live God’s way. Through the Word we are put together and shaped up for the tasks God has for us.

i am to continue in taking my personal relationship inventory, making amends, and now i will grow graceful relationships.

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