Posted: May 13, 2013 in Colossians 3

My  observation is that women are merely waiting for their husbands to assume  leadership. – James  Dobson

I don’t want to expand upon this story nor would i usually post something like this but it certainly illustrates the need for Paul’s words in Colossians 3:18 & 19 with regards to husbands and wives and the condition of our relationships within marriage.

A woman could be sentenced to life in prison for allegedly cutting off her husband’s penis and throwing it into the garbage disposal, Orange County prosecutors said. Catherine Kieu, 50, faces felony charges of torture and aggravated mayhem, with a sentencing enhancement for the personal use of a knife, court records show. Kieu was arrested the night of July 11, 2011, after she and her 60-year-old husband, whose name has not been released, apparently argued about the possibility of a friend staying at their home, prosecutors said.

Argued about the possibility… of a friend… staying at their home? It would appear that I am stunned and i am until i recall some of the disagreements i have had and the silliness of them.

i am aware that in the case of either role,  wives, or husbands the role is not contingent upon the other doing their part. That’s why it’s important for me to know and understand the role of my spouse as God intended and so my responses are not based on their behavior or lack of. I will not be held accountable for their words and deeds but for sure i will be held accountable for mine, regardless of theirs.

Colossians 3:19 Paul says, “Husbands, love…”

Husband: A man joined to a another person in marriage. The English word husband, even though it is a basic kinship term, is not a native English word. It comes ultimately from the Old Norse word hsbndi, meaning “master of a house,”

Marriage: Marriage by God’s design is the union of one man and one woman (Genesis 2:18).  Some say that it’s the ceremony (wedding) that makes the man and woman married. God’s word tells me that it is the joining of flesh that makes the marriage (Genesis  2:24).

What i will try to do, is share who i am to be and not make the case for being the head of the household or marriage which i see as frosting on the cake. Enough has been taught about that aspect. my responsibility is to be the man, the husband, the father, the disciple, the workman, that God intended for me to be.

Defining husband and even marriage is easy in comparison to defining love. The love God gave through the giving of His only Son has been distorted by man to the point that i often have difficulty discerning real love. Rather than to define love in general i am going keep my definition as it applies to my role as a husband. i am not sure that is even possible?

Love: to have love or affection for, to have a profoundly tender, passionate affection for, to have a strong liking for, take great pleasure in, to need or require; benefit greatly from, to embrace and kiss.

And using the worlds definition for love is exactly why i am unable to discern it. i look at the range of emotion encompassed with these words and i am left scratching my head.

“A man doesn’t own his marriage; he is only the  steward of his wife’s love.”  ~ Edwin Louis Cole

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