Average… Expectations?

Posted: November 21, 2014 in Average..., Podcasts
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Have you ever felt like your waiting on something that isn’t going to happen? i’ll bet that most of us have at one time or the other. It’s called expectation. And about now your wondering what exception have to do with average.

imagesHello my name is Dr. ed peterson and i’m the host of the me and I Am post and podcast. My hope today that as you read or listen to this that it would meet your expectations. This series about being “Average” or not, is completely about relationships. The first thing i must understand is that relationships come with degrees of expectations those i put on myself and ones i put on others. Even my relationship with God has expectations.

The whole relationship thing for me has always been difficult because of my expectations. Expectations are, the act or state of looking forward or anticipating, the degree of probability that something will occur.  A belief that someone will or should achieve something.

i think i found an example to summarize my whole take on expectations… and relationships.images-2

This is found in Matthew 26 starting with verse 36. “Then Jesus went with them to a garden called Gethsemane and told his disciples, “Stay here while I go over there and pray.” Taking along Peter and the two sons of Zebedee, he plunged into an agonizing sorrow. Then he said, “This sorrow is crushing my life out. Stay here and keep vigil with me.” EXPECTATION – “Stay here and keep vigil…” RELATIONSHIP… “with me.” Going a little ahead, he fell on his face, praying, “My Father, if there is any way, get me out of this. But please, not what I want. You, what do you want?” In this relationship Jesus is surrendering His will for that of His Fathers.

When he came back to his disciples, he found them sound asleep. He said to Peter, “Can’t you stick it out with me a single hour? Is it at all possible that there’s a slight touch of frustration or disappointment in the relationship?

EXPECTATION… Stay alert; And this time Jesus goes far as to tell them what to do and why He is expecting them to do this. “Be in prayer so you don’t wander into temptation without even knowing you’re in danger. There is a part of you that is eager, ready for anything in God. But there’s another part that’s as lazy as an old dog sleeping by the fire.”

images-4He then left them a second time. Again he prayed, “My Father, if there is no other way than this, drinking this cup to the dregs, I’m ready. Do it your way.”

“When he came back, he again found them sound asleep. They simply couldn’t keep their eyes open. This time he let them sleep on, and went back a third time to pray, going over the same ground one last time. So did Jesus lower His expectations?

“When he came back the next time, he said, “Are you going to sleep on and make a night of it? My time is up, the Son of Man is about to be handed over to the hands of sinners. Get up! Let’s get going! My betrayer is here.” This is no casual statement. There is an urgency for Jesus to fulfill what the Father asked and required of Him, which He was more than willing to do. You might say that God had an expectation of His Son. 

Many have asked me, “If your not average, what are you?” “Are you saying your above average?” “What do you want to be called, if not average?” Here’s the thing about not wanting to be average. i am left with a decision of what do i want to be called. My problem with being called average is that i have an immediate question of… compared to what and who? i initially though i would just call myself different. But then i found the same problem as with average. Different from what and different from who?

In light of this whole series i have found the answer. i simply want to be called a disciple. Jesus says in Matthew 26:33 to seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you. This is what makes me a disciple, not average, not above average, and not below average. God can use average people but what He desires are disciples.

images-1There’s one last thing i must share about expectations and loving others and not wanting to be called average These are the actions of those who don’t want to be called average. They are the behaviors of disciples.

Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. Love never dies.

That’s a disciple!



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