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i know, i know, i know, the title is out of character for me but it fits in so many ways. i guess just like push comes to shove it was lingering deep down somewhere. It is the animals real name at least that’s what it’s called in the Bible. When push comes to shove it’s in some way two people being stubborn and donkeys are stubborn or at least they are portrayed that way. Then this is the last day of this topic and to make my conclusion short and simple… well the title says it clearly.

The Triumphant Donkey – The Day After (Matthew 21:1-22)

The donkey awakened, his mind still savoring the afterglow of the most exciting day of his life. Never before had he felt such a rush of pleasure and pride.

He walked into town and found a group of people by the well. I’ll show myself to them, he thought.  But they didn’t notice him. They went on drawing their water and paid him no mind.

Throw your garments down, he said crossly. Don’t you know who I am? They just looked at him in amazement. Someone slapped him across the tail and ordered him to move.

Miserable heathens! he muttered to himself. I ll just go to the market where the good people are. They will remember me. But the same thing happened. No one paid any attention to the donkey as he strutted down the main street in front of the market place.

The palm branches! Where are the palm branches! he shouted. Yesterday, you threw palm branches! Hurt and confused, the donkey returned home to his mother.

Foolish child, she said gently. Don’t you realize that without Him, you are just an ordinary donkey?

Without Him all that’s left is to “Push and Shove” for my position and place in this world.

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When “push comes to shove” who am i and what am i going to believe? myself or circumstances. myself or a co-worker, a well dressed lie or my Father?

i find that when i ask these types of questions i am struggling with my identity and i’m searching for a sense of myself. The irony is that the more i seek to identify who  i am, the more fragile i feel about myself. my emphasis shouldn’t be on discovering who i am (what is buried beneath) but on facilitating the emergence of who i’d like to be.

my identity should be seen as an ongoing process. Rather than a snapshot, i should embrace a free-flowing sense of self, whereby i am perpetually re-framing,  re-organizing, re-thinking and re-considering myself. How different would life be if rather than asking who am i, i contemplated how i’d  like to engage life and learn from my mistakes.

As i engage the deepening complexity of understanding myself, i am trying to devote myself to the unfolding process of life, becoming more aware of my thoughts, not reacting out of old habits, but crafting my life.

i thought i was at the other end of the identity spectrum where i claimed to know myself very well. To think i know myself so well leaves no room for growth. Even more, it may suggest a deep vulnerability that is being hidden – as if it were too dangerous to take a closer look.

To become intimately aware of my thoughts, feelings, hopes and fears is obviously good for me. The key is to engage my sense of self more like a willow tree than a sturdy oak. The  willow is flexible and survives the storm as it bends with the wind, whereas the more rigid oak is more likely to crack.

The goal is to access the potential, keeping the parts of my identity that continue to serve me well and shedding the old, habitual pieces that constrain me. This permits me to enter into a relationship with myself that commits to my personal growth.

i have looked at myself over the past week and i have concluded that there was some “when push comes to shove” in me or i would not have done what i did. Today i am focused on getting that out of me… or let me say, getting some portion of that out of me so i never feel as yukie as i did. i know better and i expect better of myself. There is nothing that is more important than relationships at what ever level they exist. There are no coincidental relationships, i believe they are all divine appointments and let me close by adding, they are not all there to serve me or give me what i think i need or want.

General Eisenhower would demonstrate the art of leadership with a piece of string. He’d put it on a table and say: “PULL it and it will follow wherever you wish. PUSH it and it will go nowhere at all. It’s just that way when it comes to leading people. They need to follow a person who is leading by example.”

1 Corinthians 13 – would be leading by example, not when push comes to shove. This is a continuation from yesterday.

ed if you speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, (which i try to do) and ed if you have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, ( there have been an attempt or two) but you don’t love, you’re nothing. ed if you give everything you own (i give a lot) to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr( not burned at stake), but you don’t love, you’ve gotten nowhere. So, in conclusion no matter what i say, what i believe, and what i do, i am bankrupt (at the end of my resources; lacking) without love.

ed, love never gives up. Never gives up on what? That i can change someone’s mind or direction? Or, on God working all things together for my good?

ed, love cares more for others than for self. But what if i am taken advantage of, what if i am hurt? Excuse!

ed, love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. But what about hoping and desiring more? Is that taboo? Excuse!

ed, love doesn’t strut, love doesn’t have a swelled head, What about being confident? Excuse!

ed, love doesn’t force itself on others, What about leading and being a good negotiator? Excuse!

ed, love isn’t always “me first,” Somebody has to be so why not me? Excuse!

ed, love doesn’t fly off the handle, Just a moment not how i usually am? The word says to not let the sun go down on my anger, so i’ve got time. Excuse!

ed, love doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, No but i can learn from their past, right? Excuse!

ed, love doesn’t revel when others grovel, It’s not reveling if i’m just celebrating my victory? Excuse!

ed, love takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Well truth is in the mind of the beholder, right? Excuse!

ed, love puts up with anything, Really… but when is enough, enough? Excuse!

love trusts God always, love always looks for the best, love never looks back, and ed, love keeps going to the end. i know, i know, i know, but?

Love never dies. That means that love is always the right way to deal with life and the people in it. Excuse… No Truth!

Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit.

ed you know only a portion of the truth, and what you say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, your incompletes will be canceled. ed, when you were an infant at your mother’s breast, you gurgled and cooed like any infant. When you grew up, you were to leave those infant ways for good.

ed, you don’t yet see things clearly. you’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! You’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees you, knowing him directly just as he knows you! But for right now, until that completeness, ed, you have three things to do to lead you toward that consummation: ed, trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly.

A closing story of When Push Comes To Shove.

The only opening manager of a large department store, was in a rush when they had two no shows and one late arrival. While in the office trying to call some workers in, they notice a customer waiting in line at the returns counter. They hang up the phone and run over to where she’s standing.

Manager: “Sorry, ma’am, it’s been a hectic morning.”

Customer: “You’d better be. I’ve been waiting here for over half an hour!”

Manager: *puzzled* “I’m sorry, I don’t think that’s possible.”

Customer: “Yes, it is. I’ve been waiting here!”

Manager: “It’s only 8:07 am. We opened at 8:00 am.”

Customer: “Over ten minutes, then!”

When push comes to shove things deep inside me are capable of coming out and surprising me and simply explaining it by saying “that’s not me normally is not sufficient.”

i know the name Jerry Garcia only because my son gave me two Jerry Garcia ties for Christmas. So needless to say i have never listened to his music, never heard the following song, read or heard it’s words before today. But… it brings another point to ponder regarding “When push comes to shove.”

“When Push Comes to Shove”Words by Robert Hunter; music by Jerry Garcia Copyright Ice Nine Publishing;

Shaking in the desert, wherefore do you cry? Here there may be rattlesnakes to punch you in the eye Shotguns full of silver, bullets made of glass, String barbed wire at your feet and do not let you pass When Push Comes To Shove, you’re afraid of love.

When Push Comes To Shove When Push Comes To Shove You’re afraid of love When Push Comes To Shove

Shaking in the bedroom, covers on your head Cringing like a baby at the hand beneath the bed Phantom in the closet, scratching at the door The latest mystery killer that you saw on channel four When Push Comes To Shove, you’re afraid of love.

Shaking in the garden, the fear within you grows Here there may be roses to punch you in the nose Twist their arms around you, slap you till you cry, Wrap you in their sweet perfume and love you till you die When Push Comes To Shove, you’re afraid of love.

When Push Comes To Shove When Push Comes To Shove You’re afraid of love When Push Comes To Shove.

Could it be that i get to “When push comes to shove” because i’m afraid of love? Am i afraid that God does not love me enough to show up on my behalf so i have to push and then my push turns into shoving? Or… more personally am i afraid to love the one i’m pushing and shoving against?

There is a presumption on my part that the infraction of rules, is on their part. That may or may not be true. The infraction of the rules may actually be on my part and they are pushing back, then i push back, then they shove, then i shove and the game is in on. There is a face off, a pushing against one another until one of us can kick the ball to our teammate and resume the game, and…  by the way, i know… God is on my side!

But back to the idea that i may be afraid of love. The word equips me for all life so i’ll go to the most quoted, the most known, the most often used words to describe love in the Bible. 1 Corinthians 13 – and since i am considering my possible fear of love i’ll personalize the verses.

ed if you speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and ed if you have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but you don’t love, you’re nothing. ed if you give everything you own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but you don’t love, you’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what you say, what you believe, and what you do, ed, you’re bankrupt without love.

ed, love never gives up. ed, love cares more for others than for self. ed, love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. ed, love doesn’t strut, ed, love doesn’t have a swelled head, ed, love doesn’t force itself on others, ed, love isn’t always “me first,” ed, love doesn’t fly off the handle, ed, love doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, ed, love doesn’t revel when others grovel, ed, love takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, ed, love puts up with anything, love trusts God always, love always looks for the best, love never looks back, and ed, love keeps going to the end.

Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. ed you know only a portion of the truth, and what you say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, your incompletes will be canceled. ed, when you were an infant at your mother’s breast, you gurgled and cooed like any infant. When you grew up, you were to leave those infant ways for good.

ed, you don’t yet see things clearly. you’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! You’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees you, knowing him directly just as he knows you! But for right now, until that completeness, ed, you have three things to do to lead you toward that consummation: ed, trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.

More to come. i don’t want to throw some scripture at this who idea just to see what sticks.

DO AND SAY – Two brothers once lived this way; One was Do, the other was Say. If the streets were dirty, the taxes high, or the schools were crowded, Say would cry, “My what a town!” But his brother Do would get to work and make things new. While Do worked, Say would cry, “He does it wrong. I know that I Could do it right!” So all day people heard the cry of brother Say. But this one fact was never hid; Say always talked; Do always did!

i shared that because i have great concern that i listen to information (God information) all the time and my concern is that i Talk a lot about it but never Do it with the intention of it changing my life.

Ever since last week the statement or more likely this question has filled my mind. “When push comes to shove.” See it sounds at first like a statement but when it keeps repeating itself it becomes a question. i find that interesting as everyone knows i am trying to not ask questions and simply live my way into answers, but this statement is trying to over-ride that. When push comes to shove,” what will i do, or what do i do, what should i do, what have i done in the past and what will i do tomorrow?

What does “When push comes to shove” mean? Here we go! When matters must be confronted, when a crucial point is reached i would be in a push comes to shove situation. my first though goes to “when matters must be confronted.” Are there matters that must be confronted by me? Well… the answer is yes. But… the answer may be no. Don’t i have some matters i must confront as a part of life. Other matters, and i would say probably the more important matters, the answer may be no.

When push comes to shove, is from rugby, where, after an infraction of rules, forwards from each team face off and push against one another until one player can kick the ball to a teammate and resume the game.

By definition and that explanation i can a test that experienced a push comes to shove last week. An infraction of rules occurred and the forward from each team faced off and pushed against each other. The weekend began with me still pushing against the other one, still trying to kick the ball to a teammate where the game could continue… in my “favor.” Gladly i can say it did not consume the week-end and i stopped pushing.

i found myself, asking myself, how did i get to this place of pushing. i got there when it appeared to me that all the easy solutions to a problem had not worked, and so something must be done.
When push comes to shove i also attempt to bring people into agreement with my point of view, get them on my team and… they feel pressured to agree. They then say things like, “when things get a little pressed; when the situation gets more active or intense. When push comes to shove, you know I’ll be on your side.” This may be a true or false statement, depending on whether they have counted the cost of being on my side.
When push comes to shove, what will come out of me, and where will it come from?
This story is from someone who works as a security guard at a major retailer in the mall. One of their duties is to pre-lock the store at the end of the night. They leave the middle door unlocked for customers to exit while locking the side doors. While finishing the lock up, a customer runs up and tries to exit the store.

Customer: “You’re not locking me in here! You’re not even closed yet!”

Me: “Sir, we only pre-lock. If you just—”

Customer: “No, you are a worthless, fake mall cop. Did you even graduate high school? Now, let me out!” *keeps pulling on the door*

Me: “Sir, you just need to—”

Customer: “I said, open the door! I want your manager!”

Me: “No problem, sir.” *calls store manager*

Manager: *comes up on the scene* “What seems to be the issue?”

Customer: “He won’t let me out of the building. I am a paying customer and I demand to be let out.”

Manager: *turns to me* “What is the problem?”

Me: “He was trying to pull open a push door.”

Customer: *pushes open the door* “Oh, I erm, uh…” *leaves sheepishly*

When push comes to shove! “Oh, i erm, uh…” *i leave sheepishly*