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Life Is… HARD!

Posted: April 16, 2015 in Life Is...
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After three weeks the number one answer by far is Life Is… HARD!

So how about you? Is life hard for you? Do you struggle all the time? Do you wish things were easier? If so, that puts you in exactly the same boat as most others.

People don’t realize it because we trick ourselves. We think, “If i had ‘X,’ everything would be fantastic! If i could just achieve ‘Y,’ then everything would be wonderful!”

Thing is, that’s not true. Guess what happens when we get our heart’s desire? We walk on a cloud for a few hours, weeks or maybe a month and then, we adjust. We think, if i were rich, life would be easy! If i were famous, life would be grand! If i could just looking like that person, i’d never have anything to complain about.

Everyone knows that rich people, famous people, successful people, extraordinarily beautiful people have just as many problems as everyone else. It’s just a different set of problems.

Matthew 6:34 (MSG) says, “Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.”

Here’s what i have found… my life is hard when i take my attention off Him. AND… the farther away from Him i get the harder life is. This is one of those experiential things. i can share till i’m blue in the face but you won’t get it until you experience it for yourself. Perhaps the picture can at least bring us some perspective.

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Ever felt lost? Alone? Frustrated? Scared? Unsure? Anxious? Trapped? Unfulfilled. Stuck in a dead-end job. Smothered by others expectations. Has there ever been a time when you didn’t have a clue what you wanted to do with your life and further that when it comes down to it you feel as thought you have no say in regards to it?

imagesBeen there… done that! Maybe not today or this week but not all that long ago. The worst part for me was that i was living the life that society and Christianity had always told me to live. They said it was the “right thing” to do.

i don’t know about you, but it turns out for me that, the “right thing” to do sucked the joy out of life. Perhaps that’s the epitome of becoming weary in well-doing?

Wasting my precious time doing things that i really didn’t want to be doing. Being afraid to express my uniqueness. Having fun on the weekends then dreading the upcoming week. Maybe you don’t have to imagine it at all, a few moments of satisfaction drowned out by a constant grind of activity?

Life should be… most anything other than what i’ve described above. i knew it could be and actually should be different, but i had no clue where to start. Mind you, i was a “Christian” and working full-time in ministry. But i spent my days wishing that things would change—that i could escape a life that didn’t seem to fit.

Forest Gump said, “My momma always said, Life was like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.” That doesn’t sound so bad… if you like chocolate? But i know for a fact that i don’t care for many of the things inside the chocolates… such as bacon!

Am i to settle for a life that seems, somehow, to have just happened? That, in and of itself is ambiguous because nobody’s life has just happened. My life has been a series of choices, responses, actions, words etc., etc..

images-1I think most everyone has or maybe had an expectation of what our lives should be. From my daily mundane tasks to who i will become at some time in the future. Through-out my life i have had many ideas of what i want or thought i wanted from life. And when life doesn’t meet my expectations… i’m so disappointed even in small insignificant things. i can’t tell you how many times i have planned my days right down to the very last half-hour, but no matter how detailed, how perfectly calculated a day is planned, it seldom goes exactly as planned.

That’s not to say that every day is a disappointment. Not even close, especially since i have focused on not defining my days as good or bad days. Even on the days i need to be as perfectly put-together as possible, something is bound to occur that was not a part of my schedule. A train brings traffic to a stop. i find out that i forgot to put something on my calendar, a meeting goes longer than i anticipated, etc. And then let’s not forget that outside of these everyday things, there are the major life events that i think i have planned for but happen outside the parameters  that i have set for them. And then i find out that life or more importantly God has other plans.

Let me close today with two thoughts. First, i don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that i just lived the length of it. i want to have lived the width of it as well.

Secondly, Sometimes my expectations sell me short. Sometimes the expected simply pales in comparison to the unexpected. i wonder why i cling to my expectations, because the expected is just what keeps me steady. The expected’s just the beginning. The unexpected has been and still is what changes my life.

 

Have you heard of an animal that complains about not having enough money? Have you heard of an insect that suffers Kid to mom about funky dog: 'I'm not complaining, Mom, but when can I get one that's not a bobblehead?'from too much stress? Have you heard of a fish that lives in pain due to a broken relationship? Probably, only human beings live complicated lives. So why is life so complicated? How about this for an answer, because i have increasing needs. When i have more needs, i add more complexity to my life. Here’s another question, do people ever have enough? Or am i always looking for more. What about figuring out how to enjoy more with less.

I shared a story about a 14 year old who committed suicide on Friday. For the parents of this child life got real complicated and will probably remain that way for some time if not the rest of their lives. At the funeral on Sunday this little girls 8 year old sister spoke and shared that she was both angry and sad because her sister did this. This 8 year olds life just got complicated. My grandsons life got complicated as well. my life got a little more complicated because of my grandson. He’s a little young to have to begin dealing with such awful and bewildering situations. The only persons life that didn’t get complicated was this 14 year old who decided to end her life. Obviously she felt the complications prior to Friday but for whatever reason saw no hope of a solution.

This post is not the one i wrote to open this series of Life Is… either. i can not shake this question of, “Life Is…” so i decided to begin asking people if they could tell me the answer. It caught most people off guard and i could tell that they were puzzled and struggled to come up with an answer, any answer so that i would leave them alone and stop making them uncomfortable. The most popular response i have heard thus far is “Hard.” “Life Is Hard…!”

i began looking at those around me and saw some of the complications that they are dealing with. Theres’ the couple that got thrown off track and now they can’t seem to find each other. There’s the person dealing with depression and their own thoughts of ending life. There are several who feel like their in a waiting mode and some of them not even sure what their waiting for. There’s one who feels that playing the lottery is complicated as they try to find the winning combination of numbers. One person shared how their car began falling apart this week end and now life is financially complicated. There’s a single mom trying to put their daughter through college and they only have one car making getting around complicated.

62176560c92ddddee0f2a394f11aed21This series is taking on a life of it’s own and some are willing to share their answer, so i will begin sharing their answers. i am not suggesting that they are right or wrong. They are just what they as individuals feel that life is at this time. i’m guessing that if i ask them the same question in a month or two that their answer may take on a different look.

If there is a reader out there who would like to share your answer please send it to annmarieanded@yahoo.com and i will consider sharing it. i am looking forward to what others will share!

There’s no place like home. Heals click. There’s no place like home. Heals click. There’s no place like home. Heals click, and Dorothy imagesmagically is back in Kansas. That’s not the way it works with, “Today”… is the greatest day, i’ve ever known. It’s not wishful thinking nor is it “name it and claim it.”

In the movie The American President, which i’ve probably seen a dozen times, Michael Douglas gives his “America isn’t easy” speech. Here’s a portion of the speech and then i’ll share my take.

“America isn’t easy. America is advanced citizenship. You’ve gotta want it bad, ’cause it’s gonna put up a fight. It’s gonna say, “You want free speech? Let’s see you acknowledge a man whose words make your blood boil, who’s standing center stage and advocating at the top of his lungs that which you would spend a lifetime opposing at the top of yours.” You want to claim this land as the land of the free? Then the symbol of your country cannot just be a flag. The symbol also has to be one of its citizens exercising his right to burn that flag in protest. Now show me that, defend that, celebrate that in your classrooms. Then you can stand up and sing about the land of the free.”

“Discipleship isn’t easy. Discipleship is advanced relationship with God. You’ve gotta want it bad, ’cause the enemy, the world, is gonna put up a fight. It’s gonna say, “You want free choice? Let’s see you acknowledge a man whose words make your blood boil, who’s standing center stage and advocating at the top of his lungs that which you would spend a lifetime opposing at the top of yours.” You want to claim Christianity as being free? Then the symbol of your faith cannot just be showing up at church on Sunday it must be extended as love. The symbol also has to be one of His creation exercising his right to turn their back on God in protest. Now show me that, defend that, celebrate that in your lives. Then you can stand up and sing about being a Disciple of God.”

Unknown“Today”… Is The Greatest Day, I’ve Ever Known isn’t easy.  You’ve gotta want it bad! There will be circumstances that would want you to believe otherwise. There will be people that will cause you to wonder. Even the word says in Matthew 6:34 that, “Sufficient for each day is its own trouble.” What makes the Michael Douglas speech different from my version is God. There is nothing more worth while to believe in, to want badly, and fight earnestly for, than a single day in God’s plan for my life.

So again, “How far do you want to grow and mature during the remaining years of your life?” What did you come up with? How you answer that will play a part of whether your day is the greatest day you will ever know or whether is will just be another day in a series of days that just all seem to run together.